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Q: Which Political party do I belong with the republicans or democrats?
This is a repost of a question I asked tonight. I shorted it a lot. If you don’t want to read that much skip to the short points.

I don’t know which Political party I belong with. I have lots of world views and opinions. I don’t know if they belong with the democrats or the republicans. My world views don’t Aline with either. So I am asking dems(No hippies that want to appease terrorist respond with your stupidity) and republicans(I am asking the modern republicans not the religious sara palin nut case fab which will disappear when the mccians take over) which party do i belong too? Well here are my opinions on the issues. You yahoo will decide.

Here are my two most important points.

What I don’t like about the dems.

I don’t agree with obama taking away credits from persons under 21!!! This really got me mad. What gives them the right to discriminate against people 18 to 21. The government lets me die for my country but won’t let me spend money on credit for my country!!! Its already bad enough they won’t let me drink! ( I am 19 btw) if they keep treating us like kids then they should raise the age to enlistment to 21.

What I don’t like about reps

The fact that they don’t support health reform. Which is horrible!!!!! The republicans are simply in denial. There are 50 mil ppl without health care in America! That is not an acceptable number. Not to mention I had personal problems with insurance companies before. My mom had breast cancer. We got letter in the mail a few weeks later informing us the surgery has been denied!!!! They claim it was a self esteem issue and insurance does not cover surgery that improve self esteem. A tumor with cancer in it causing many painful nights for my mom is not a self esteem issue its life and death. We even called a lawyer to scare the insurance company into covering us. Which worked! This is a sign that we need reform. Imagine all the other people who had this problem too.

Here are short points on my world view.

I am pro Iraq war

I am pro Afghanistan war.( Obama should send more troops. I say if you support them support them all the way!)

I am an athiest, I don’t believe in god.

I am pro-choice.

I support stem cell research

I don’t like Drill baby drill stance on energy.

I agree with a fence or something to keep illegals out.

I disgree on rounding up illegals and deporting them. Too hard and legally in the gray area.

I agree with the stimulus package FDR FTW!:)

Pro gay marriage

I agree on taxing Indian casinos

Pro public healthcare

Pro credit cards!

I meat somewhere in the middle with gun control. People should own guns if they want. I might even buy one for sport. no RPGS or explosive shells or armor piecing unless you are a cop.

Oh btw tell me the party u r in.

A: You don’t need labels just be an independent or like Bill said

Go the ” 3rd way”

Q: 10 points to anyone who knows the meaning of this song please?
We’re dancing free but we’re stuck here underground
And everybody trying to figure they way out
Hey hey hey, all we ever wanted to say
Was chased erased and then thrown away
And day to day we live in a daze

Refrain:
We march all around til’ the sun goes down night children
Broken dreams, no sunshine, endless crimes, we long for freedom (for freedom)
You’re free but in your mind, your freedom’s in a bind

Chorus:
Oh make it rain, ain’t a thang and the sky to fall
(the silver bullet’s in your hand and the war’s heating up)
And when the truth goes bang the shouts splatter out
(revolutionize your lives and find a way out)
And when you’re growing down instead of growing up
(you gotta ooo ah ah like a panther)
Tell me are you bold enough to reach for love?
(na na na…)

2nd verse:
So strong for so long
All i wanna do is sing my simple song
Square or round, rich or poor
At the end of day and night all we want is more
I keep my feet on solid ground and use my wings when storms come around
I keep my feet on solid ground for freedom
You’re free but in your mind, your freedom’s in a bind

Chorus

Cybernetic chantdown:
Civil rights, civil war
Hood rat, crack xxxxx
Carefree, nightclub
Closet drunk, bathtub
Outcast, weirdo
Stepchild, freak show
Black girl, bad hair
Broad nose, cold stare
Tap shoes, broadway
Tuxedo, holiday
Creative black, love song
Stupid words, erased song
Gun shots, orange house
Dead man walking with a dirty mouth
Spoiled milk, stale bread
Welfare, bubonic plague
Record deal, light bulb
Keep back kid not corporate thug
Breast cancer, common cold
Hiv, lost hope
Overweight, self esteem
Misfit, broken dream
Fish tank, small bowl
Closed mind, dark hold
Cybergirl, droid control
Get away now they trying to steal your soul
Microphone, one stage
Tomboy, outrage
Street fight, bloody war
Instigators, third floor
Promiscuous child, broken dream
Std, quarentine
Heroin user, coke head
Final chapter, death bed
Plastic sweat, metal skin
Metallic tears, mannequin
Carefree, night club
Closet drunk, bathtub
White house, jim crow
Dirty lies, my regards

Closing lullaby:
And when the world just treats you wrong
Just come with me and i’ll take you home
No need to pack a bag
Who put your life in the danger zone?
You running dropping like a rolling stone
No need to pack a bag
You just can’t stop your hurt from hanging on
The old man dies and then a baby’s born
Chan, chan, chan, change your life
And when the world just treats you wrong
Just come with me and i’ll take you home
Shan, shan shan shan-gri la
Na na na na na na na na na na na.

A: Maybe he/she is singing about communism. It definitely incorporates an element of conspiracy and propaganda though.
Maybe its something beyond that and he/she is singing about keeping your faith and hope and all that crap.

Q: 10 points to anyone who can tell me the meaning of this song?
We’re dancing free but we’re stuck here underground
And everybody trying to figure they way out
Hey hey hey, all we ever wanted to say
Was chased erased and then thrown away
And day to day we live in a daze

Chorus

A: i love that song.
it is about some one who doesn’t know exactly who they are and sings about random stuff and being free

Q: PCOS – Any new drug on the market?
I was told i had PCOS when i was 14 (i’m 21 now) and i was put on diannette by my male doctor (who might i add told me i could have sex now since i was put on the pill). Anyway, i read around the drug and found that there was an increased chance of breast cancer and so i stopped taking it when i was 16. Now i’m 21, overweight, i have a period once every three months and i suffer from excessive hair (which makes me so mad and has really dampned my self esteem). I was wondering if there was any new drug on the market to get rid of the excessive hair. I know i will have to go back to my doctor and get it under control, but please any ideas on the excess hair is welcomed. At the moment i thread, wax, tweeze and epilate everywhere, but to be quite honest i am running out of patience!!
Hi Kim, just wanted to know you can remove hair with tweezers and things inbetween your sessions? Because i once heard that you are not meant to since it defeats the whole purpose of laser. Hope you check this again – please mail me on natasha1adams@hotmail.co.uk – thankyou.xx

A: I have PCOS and I’m taking the Diannette pill but my doctors have said that is quite old fashioned now and they don’t prescribe it any more( been taking it for a few years ) and informed me that they will be changing my pill the next time it needs renewing, it might be worth going back to your doctors to see whats on offer.

Regarding the hair, i have been through a course of laser treatment, the laser goes straight to the route of the hair making it grow back finer and lighter. I have had about 7 treatments and there is no hair there now at all. It is a little pricey about £90 per session but i found it well worth the money. My self confidence shot up as soon as the first treatment was done. It’s usually about 3/4 months in between each treatment initially but the more you have the more time in between. I don’t have any hair now at all and think the last time i went was about 9 months ago! I wish you well!!

Q: Am I a cold and a monster?
When my mom died I was devastated. I turned to my wife for support after two weeks of severe depression. She told me that in her culture, they take 3 days to grieve and then suck it up and move on.
No one was left for me to turn too and I had to drop out of school because I could not get adequate care for my son. Slowly, my self-esteem and my world view began to hit rock bottom.
In August of last year my mother-in-law was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer. Ever since she started chemo my life has been uprooted every 2 months or so. Her symptoms worsen and my wife spends most of her time there while my son and I do not see her and I am expected to miss work to make it easier for her to go see her mother and not have to worry about careing for our son.
Now her mom is close to dieing and my wife is devastated. But I feel that she has had almost a year to accept that her mom was dieing. She gave me three days. Should I tell her it is time to accept her mom’s passing?

A: Yes, you need to tell her to accept what is happening, without being a jerk like she was. And I bet she is eating her words by the way. I would remind her of what she said to you, and let her know you have been through it. And although she really wasn’t understanding while your mother died, you will be in spite of. I don’t think you are cold or a monster at all. You have to be honest with your feelings. I don’t know any culture that says you only have 3 days to mourn. I don’t care what your race or culture is, grieving is a process. No one just “gets over it.” That’s not even humanly possible.

Q: Need some advice?
I am deeply and extremely depressed. I am 26 years of age and was diagnosed with breast cancer in december. And although I am fine right now, I feel that I will be dead years from now once this disease comes back. Which I know it will because I developed the cancer at such a young age and am going to be at higher risk of developing again once I get older. I have dealt with so much heartache and pain in my life with low-self esteem issues and being abused my people mentally and physically my entire life all because they hated my outward apperance. Soon as I was trying to get my life on track and trying to raise my self esteem and be happy with who I am i get hit with the devasting blow that I have breast cancer. My parents are such assholes they tell me that god is punishing me for my attitude that’s why i was diagnosed with cancer and i am not putting any faith in god that is why i have cancer. I don’t know how to be happy. How can I with the situation that I am in.?
My parents tell me that I need to appreicate life more since god gave me a second chance. I wasn’t given a second chance. i am dying slowly but surely. i could be dead in the next 10 to 20 years from cancer. It always returns. Life is so fucked up for me. i feel like taking my own life now just to get it over with. I need help and some advice please?

A: OK – here is my advice.

Sweetheart, ANYONE could be dead 10-20 years from now.
Live every single minute like you don’t have any more.

God is not punishing you.
God does not punish people. We will all be judged after this life, not punished during it.

I will tell you that a positive attitude will help you get through the treatment, and help you heal faster. Because I have been there.

Finally, forget what others are telling you, and live your life for yourself.
Disregard all of the negatives and BS, and go do some of the things YOU want to do.

Here’s a video for you:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7mHaFMqde6A

May God bless you

Edit: Darlin’ do not take your own life!
Because if you do, then you just proved that all of those negative people in your life were right.
Living well is the best revenge.
Get out there and LIVE your life to the best of your ability, and show them all how wrong they are!!!!!!

~feel free to email me~

Q: phobia & anxiety.?
for the past nine months now Ive suffered from panic attacks. Ive been countless times to my GP but theyve always brushed it off as nothing, like im a typical teenager with self esteem issues but its not that at all. I know what the root of the problem is, and Ive tried explaining it but still they do nothing to help me. Its ruling my life where I get scared to go out on my own, its 100% guaranteed that I’ll have a panic attack on a public bus and even when I go to bed alone. these panic attacks usually happen in warm cloggy areas (I have asthma, so could this be a factor?) and also I have a major phobia of death. Im 18 and think of it almost every day ever since I lost my cousin to breast cancer, this is the reason why I panic when going to sleep..
I just need advice on how to deal with these attacks, what I should do, whether I should seek professional help. anything really..

A: You can read my articles at the bottom of this. They can help you further.

Family doctors are, generally, ignorant of mental health diseases because medicine holds a very large scope and their main priority is to treat everyday problems. You have to go to a mental health professional, a psychiatrist, a councilor, or a pscyhologist. They have been specifically schooled to deal with and heal anxiety disorders.

It sounds like you have a very severe panic disorder (or panic disorders…) and that you need to talk to a specialist as soon as you can. The right doctor can teach you coping statements in order to help you deal with each panic attack as they come, and healhty thinking habits to deal with your obsessive thoughts.

I wish you luck and I know that if you can find a doctor who knows what he’s doing, he can help you a lot!

How to Identify Anxiety Disorders… http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/347123/how_to_identify_anxiety_disorders_a.html

Surviving Panic Attacks…http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/348589/surviving_a_panic_attack.html

Q: My best friend’s relationship?
I’ve been best friends with Cathy* for over 22 years, pretty much since the day I was born. Last year, her mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. At first, I didn’t know how to handle the scary situation, so I did a terrible thing and I basically had no contact with my best friend. When I finally did reach out to her she was SO ANGRY and HURT, which is absolutely 100% understandable. However, since then, we’ve reconciled, and now she has an AMAZING job (she’s literally making double the amount of money that I’m making lol) and she got an apartment with her girlfriend and a friend of theirs. I want to be so happy for her, and I really am, but I really, really don’t like Brittany* who is her girlfriend. They’ve been together for over 3 years, and I’ve seen the terrible way that Brittany has treated Cathy. However, Cathy has terrible self-esteem and probably thinks that she can’t do any better. I want to help Cathy see that she needs out of the relationship, but without hurting her.
Brittany has never physcially abused Cathy, or anything like that, but she does stupid things that REALLY hurt her all the time. I get crying phone calls from Cathy basically once a month. I just want her to see that she can do so much better, but without hurting her ego or making her think that I don’t support every decision she makes. I also don’t want to lose contact with her, by making another mistake like I did last year.

A: This is tough because people in bad relationships usually don’t see that their relationship is as bad as it seems. Cathy is going to have to want to get out of the relationship on her own and you are going to have to stand by her side until she gets to that point in her life. Leaving her again won’t do your friendship any good, at the moment you are the person she turns to when things get bad for her. You could get together with her and ask her (rhetorically of course) what would she do if you were in a relationship like hers? Maybe she needs to hear how bad it looks from the outside.

Q: Do I need to seek professional help?
Ever since I was about five I have had a crippling preoccupation with death. I go through phases where I am afraid to die certain ways. When I was seven I was so afraid of death by ingesting chemicals I could not be in the same room as a bottle of windex. I am currently fearing heart disease and breast cancer. I watch everything I eat and am constantly checking to make sure I don’t have symptoms. These fears have taken over my life and lowered my self confidence significantly. Another aspect of my life that has had a negative impact on my self esteem is the giant port wine stain birth mark running up my entire left leg, starting at the bottom of my foot and reaching all the way up to my lower back. I constantly feel bad about myself and hate myself. I feel so horrible but then I look around and realize that I am so fortunate and that I have so much. I think about all the children in the world starving and struggling to survive and immediately loathe myself for feeling bad about my life. When I feel horrible for being so selfish I begin to hate myself again and when I begin to hate my elf I think of all the kids in other countries and so on. It’s a vicious cycle of self hate and I need to stop it. All these feelings have lead me into what I believe is depression. I have a lot of the symptoms, apparently. I have trouble sleeping, I constantly feel either hollow, like someone gauged out some of my soul, or heavy, like there’s a block of lead resting in the pit of my stomach. Sometimes every step feels like a great effort and I don’t really do anything with my life, I just kinda sit there and waste away; I feel as if my future is hopeless. The thing, however, that has scared me into asking this question is that lately I have been viewing death as a release. No, I’m not suicidal, I’m too afraid of death to try anything, but I used to tell myself that this wouldn’t matter ten years from now when bad things happened, now I tell myself this won’t matter when your dead. This might have somthing to do with my withdrawl from the Catholic religion and the fact that I don’t believe in heaven and hell, but I’m not sure. I am only 14 and I know I’m not supposed to be thinking about things like this, none of my friends think like this, I am the only one. I feel as if I am addicted to self destruction, which I find quite romantic for some strange reason, and self hatred. But basically, I apoligize for that painfully long summary, the question is: Do I need help? Am I actually depressed? or am I just as bad and selfish of a person as I think I am?
My parents know about my fear of death, but they don’t really believe me. They think it is just me being over dramatic. But it’s kinda akward talking to them. I mean what am I supposed to say to them?

A: Yes

Q: Does the bible say that a person will go to hell if they commit suicide? ?
My mother says that it does, but i think that she is saying this just to scare me. I hate life. I am so tired of it. I am having to endure alot of things that i should not have to. I don’t see any point of living anymore. I was in therapy, but it didn’t work. I don’t see things getting any better for me. Life is just not fair. I so angry and frustrated when i see everyone else so happy and get everything that they want out of life, when i try very hard and nothing works out for me.

On top of that my self-esteem is so low. I have been ridiculed about everything from to how flat my chest is, from being called mentally challenged because of my slow speech, to the way that i walk, to how ugly my face is, I don’t think there is anything wrong with my appearance. I look just like any other normal person, but it still hurts to be called names.

Last year when i was 26 years old i got breast cancer. I don’t understand how i got cancer. I have no family history of it. It seems that is just a string of bad luck that i have on me. I am tired of living. I have nothing to live for. I just wanna die so bad.
V Vb B you are an asshole and you haven’t lived my life so it is easy for you to say that i am bitching over nothing. You are the one that is pathetic
V Vb B you go straight to hell. You have not been through anything worser than what ihave been through you loser so watch your mouth.

A: I heard you relive the same death everyday after you die

don’t be sad babycake, life was not meant to be easy – once you get through the tough times, the sun will shine brightly for you again.

i try not to compare myself to others because everyone is different and unique, dwell on all the good things in your life at the moment no matter how hard that may seem and the warm feeling of gratitude will take you to a better place.

Q: Everything seems to be going wrong lately. How can things get better from here?
I’m a 14 1/2 year old boy living in New Zealand and my family recently moved from Auckland (north island) to Christchurch (south island)

Now everything seems to of turned to custard.

1) My mum and dad have been fighting alot since we moved here. They argue over the smallest things. They are both deaf since birth, and now can’t hear a thing.
– My mum grew up here in christchurch and she wanted us to move here. Peter (Also deaf) , her childhood friend lives here, too. I’m worried that peter is going to try and take mum away from my dad. Because he’s always trying to be nice to her, far too nice and doing things that make my dad look bad. Like during monopoly when he came over to play, mum landed on dad’s expensive hotel and lost most of her money. Then next time she landed on peter’s hotel, and said that mum didn’t have to pay. Dad looked rather annoyed.
I’m not basing this on that monopoly game, it was an example of the things hes doing that make me annoyed.
And now peter always tries to joke aorund with me, i don’t even think the jokes are funny and i feel uncomfortable when he acts like that, as if hes trying to be all fatherly, like he buys me and my brother tim tams and stuff. I just feel as if he’s trying to take over. I just act friendly, but now i feel that i’ve given him the wrong impression and that dad might think i actually like peter. I feel bad about it.
And today, when mum and dad were planning to go out somewhere, peter asked if he could come over after work and bring one of his clients from his work over. (Peter works as a man who supports disabled people, mainly this man who is Deaf AND blind.) Mum said that they were gonig out, but they could meet up at the deaf club tomorrow. Peter agreed, Then he came over to ‘’surprise her.”
They were now gonig to be over 30 mins late for going out, so dad refused to take mum out. It led to an argument.
I find it so hard to do something like picking a side. My mum and dad’s lives have been hard enough. Mum’s so much more emotionally fragile, she cries alot. Dad doesn’t cry when hes sad, but hes likely bottling it up, hurting inside.
He’s brought over the deaf and blind man a few times before. It seems as if he’s trying to act like some kind of saint in front of my mum, like a more interesting person than dad.
I’m now considering sending an E-mail to peter to tell him to leave my mum alone if hes trying to do something leading to a very serious divorce. But Peter might only be being nice to be genuine, not to be ‘’sweet.” But i wish he wasn’t interfering.

2) My grandmother has been diagnosed with breast cancer. Nana said they found it early so she’s going to be okay, but mum’s really worried about her. Nana should be fine, but mum doesn’t really understand the concept. She just thinks cancer and gets really scared…which makes me sad when she cries.

3) My brother isn’t doing well at school here. At our old school, he had a few circles of friends, but here he hasn’t made any friends yet. I’m not a huge social animal, so i can’t really introduce him to people. He’s very, very shy. Back in Auckland, he had all his friends since primary school, from when he didn’t have to worry about all this socialism, like people wanting to do drugs at this age and stuff.
He’s my only and older brother, 16 years old. He hasn’t had a girlfriend yet and he’s struggling at school, getting low grades and now has low self-esteem. I worry about him, but don’t want to make it worse by saying ”try harder” or something.
I’ve been doing really well at school, and have plenty of friends and had a date before, I feel bad because i’m the younger brother and I feel like i’d make him feel bad because of how things have been going for me lately. (Not that i’m saying that I am superior to him or something)

4) My parents have had alot of health problems. My dad, 46, had a heart attack. My mum, 45, has asthma, a gallstone which can’t be fixed for another 3-6 months as the hospitals are busy, and also has a stomach ulcer.(very painful!)

5) I miss my old friends. I’m doing okay with new friends, but my old friends were special to me. There was this girl who is very special to me, who was my best friend since the start of year 10 when we were put in the same form class and i sat next to her and got to know her better. (I didn’t talk to her during year 9 at high school because i was very self-conscious about my appearance and got called ugly and another few nasty comments that made me feel really terrible about myself.)
I moved from Auckland halfway through year 10.
We only talked about general things and general jokes, for some reason, i never really told her about many of my personel interests. I love all the same things she does…
But when i look back, i never really put any of my feelings into words. Alot of my replies involved ”Oh, okay…” and ”I see…” and also ”Ahh, yeah…”
On my last day at the school till

A: Get ur dad and mum sitting down together and tell them how ur feeling, kid. I went through this too and they should listen to u. It should get better, just explain how it hurts u. They love u, they wuld listen :J

Q: Help! How can I shrink my boobs?
I know this sounds weird; most girls these days want to increase their breast size. However, I’m 19 with a 36DD… and constantly growing. I know that doesn’t sound too bad… but due to health problems, I stopped growing heightwise when I was 12. I’m not even five feet tall (and never will be) and my chest is HUGE!
Plastic surgery isn’t an option- for one thing, it’s a ridiculous amount of money, and I want to be able to breastfeed when ever I decide to have children. I have had constant self-esteem issues since I was 10 (that was before my health issues were diagnosed). My stomach stuck out funnily (intestinal problems) and my mother always told me to ’suck it in.’ By the time I reached 13, I was only 60 pounds, and still, always told to ’suck it in.’ (Before you go off on my mother, she had good intentions; later in life I’d eat a bowl of ice cream just to piss her off and now I regret it.) I still have a lot of health problems, but within the past six months I’ve started eating healthy and exercising. I had to go on steriods in Jan of 08, which is what pushed my cup size from a nice 32C to this whopping 36DD; I gained 60 pounds from it, resulting in 180something. I’m now at a steady 137, and feeling GREAT; however, my boobs haven’t shrunk at all… Yeah, yeah, ’suck it up, you should be grateful to have naturally large boobs,’ but I hate it. I have a lot of back problems because of it, and I’m terrified of getting breast cancer.
PLEASE! Is there any way to shrink your boobs naturally? Maybe a certain type of food or cream? Like I said, I know it sounds ridiculous, but I’m sure my large-chested friends out there would agree; having your cup runneth over too much is no fun.
I would so gratefully appreciate it
And to jdizzle fo shizzle, I personally don’t think so. But my boyfriend does

A: Follow this Diet chart and yoga aasans

It is good that you have sought the help of Yoga to bring your body back into shape. While your practices and measure to eliminate excess weight or what you do is important, what you shouldn’t do is just as important.

* Don’t resort to weight reduction pills or powders of any sort and please avoid crash diets. We shall prescribe you a simple diet that is healthy, easy to follow and will deliver the desired results. See a nutritionist or dietician, if you must, but preferably one who knows and practices Yoga.

* Never skip meals. This makes you overeat at other times. So, by all means eat three or even four times a day, but eat light and sparingly.

Yoga Exercises

Standing Position

# Tadasana (Palm Tree pose)
# Parvatasana (Mountain pose)
# Trikonasana (Triangle Pose)
# Ardha Chakrasana (Half Moon pose)
# Padangusthasana (Toe to hand pose)
# Padahastasana (Forehead to knee pose)

Sitting Position

# Janu Sirshasana ((Forehead to single knee pose)
# Paschimottanasana (Forehead to both knees pose)
# Ushtrasana (Camel pose)
# Gomukhasana (Cow face pose)
# Simhasana (Lion pose)
# Marichyasana (Pose dedicated to the sage Marichi)
# Ardha Matsyendrasana (Half Lord of the Fish pose)

Supine Position

# Purvottanasana (Inclined Plane)
# Matsyasana (Fish pose)
# Pawanmuktasana (Wind relieving pose)
# Navasana (Boat pose)
# Chakrasana (Wheel pose)
# Sethu Bandhasana (Bridge formation pose)
# Halasana (Plough pose)

Prostrate Position

# Adho Mukha Svanasana (Downward Dog pose)
# Bhujangasana (Cobra pose)
# Dhanurasana (Bow pose)
# Shalabhasana (Locust pose)

Inverted Position

# Viparita Karani (Legs against the wall pose)
# Sarvangasana (Shoulder Stand)

Balancing Position

# Vrikshasana (Tree pose)
# Garudasana (Eagle pose)

Pranayamas (breathing exercises)

# Kapalabhatti (Skull cleansing)
# Anuloma-Viloma (Alternate Nostril Breathing)
# Suryabhedana (Right Nostril breathing)

Kriyas (Cleansing techniques)

# Jala Neti (Cleansing Nasal passages with water)
# Sutra Neti (Cleansing Nasal passages with rubber catheter)
# Vaman Dhauti (Cleansing stomach by vomit water on empty stomach)

Yogic Diet

This is very important, if you wish to get back into shape and develop a healthy, slim and shapely physique. Let your diet be Yogic and Sattvic (pure, light and predominantly vegetarian). This means plenty of raw foods – salads, sprouts and seasonal fruit – vegetable juices, dried fruits and loads of water.

Avoid potatoes, peas, chick peas, grams, peanuts, all non-veg fare, fried, fatty and spicy foods, junk / fast foods, packaged foodstuffs and confectionary products. Also keep away from milk and milk products such as cheeses and butter. But you may have plenty of diluted buttermilk prepared from skimmed milk. Avoid snacking between meals and, as mentioned before, never skip a meal.

Q: Is it too late to start over a new life at the age of 28?
I will be 29 this August and wondering am i too old to start over a new life? I reflect back on my life and realize that i have spent the majority of it unhappy and extremely depressed.

Since I was a teenager, I have been suffering from low self-esteem, depression, and social anxiety disorder. And to make things even worse, I was diagnosed with stage 2 triple negative breast cancer in December of 2007 when I was 26. I have been in remission for 25 months now. Not a day goes by that I don’t fear of the cancer returning and taking my life. Part of me is afraid that as soon as I try to move on with my life and start over anew, that is when things are going to go bad for me. As soon as I try to become happy, it always seems like something bad always comes along and undermines my happiness.

A: Sorry to hear that you were diagnosed with breast cancer. It must have been very difficult at such a young age to deal with it.

It is not to late to start a new life – 28 years old is actually young.. Many people in their 40’s actually switch careers – so you are even younger.

Dream and be what ever you want to be – don’t worry about the cancer returning. Remember there are people everyday that die unexpectently from car accidents – but they lived life fully not knowing about their future.

You are stronger now and the cancer may never return – don’t waste your life worrying – you could look back when you are 65 – 70 years old – and say why didn’t I do something when I was 28 years old.

Good luck – dream big – and make it happen.

P.S. Because of all you have gone thru – it may be a good idea to see a doctor about your depression – it is not unusual for cancer patients to get depression. – so antidepression medication may help you alot – so you can accomplish your dreams.

Q: I’m thinking about ending my life.?
I cant stand being in the United States as an ilegal immigrant!
I was brought here at age four, and grew up here, loving America.
I crossed the dessert with my mom, sister, uncle and a group of about twenty, to the US.
My dad was already over here because he needed to get money for my mom who was in mexico with breast cancer.

Now I get treated like shit with so much disrespect, and hate that it crushes my self esteem and makes me want to give up with my life.
you might say whats wrong with being ilegal…
i cant get a drivers liscense; which means, no girlfriend… ever.
i have to walk every where as do my parents and sister.
i cant go to college; turns out you have to pay 3 times as much as an american to get a college education.
i haven’t seen my cousins or uncles or grandparents in 13 years!
i saw them on skype with my family and we cried alot… it was heart aching to see them on a blurry computer screen, and not be able to hug them.
like i said i get treated like sh!t by my classmates, i am a senior…
people make hurtful comments such as go back to mexico. or shut up beaner…
i tired of it, i have such a huge depression that it actual hurts.
i want to end it, end the humiliation i put up with on a daily basis.
end the pain of being lonley, not being able to date.
end the pain of not being able to visit my family.
i want to die.
my dad applyied 2 times and both times got close but something always went wrong.

dont say go back to your country its not my damnn country i was raised here! the only problem is i was born there.
going back is not an option for me…

A: How come you don’t just try to get legal citizenship to the country? I understand that it is an extremely difficult process, but it is much better than giving up and killing yourself. Your parents worked very hard for you to come here; do you really want to make their own struggles worth nothing?

Even if you get citizenship, however, those racist stereotypes and remarks will never go away. For some reason, people automatically assume that someone who is Hispanic/Spanish that they are illegal immigrants. So unfortunately, ignorance will continue to persist. As a Black woman, I can tell you that racism is no laughing matter (well, it can be…but you get my point). It is actually very typical for people to get depression when having to deal with racism and thanks to oppression, discrimination, and stereotype threats, it makes it harder for us to succeed and better our lives. The one and only way to solve that problem is to go to a place where you are the majority. However, I’m sure that’s not an option and I’m sure you wouldn’t even want to do that.

Be strong and ignore them. If you cannot thrive in the face of adversity, you will constantly suffer. Perhaps you would benefit from seeing a counselor (like your school counselor)? Their job is to help you learn better ways to cope with stress and hardship.

However, I do strongly suggest trying to get your citizenship. It would probably make a lot of your problems go away.

EDIT: Just because your father has tried and not succeeded yet does not mean that it will never happen. Keep trying. Its a very difficult process and so I can only imagine that not everyone makes it through the first through times. There’s no reason to give up. Like I said, a large portion of your problems will probably disappear once you become a legal citizen.

And as for the people telling you to try going back to “your country”, they are just trying to be helpful. After all, you really do not have much options if you want these problems to go away. You can either become a citizen or leave the country; take your pick. Since leaving the country is not something you want and probably not something you’re even really able to do, that leaves you with becoming a citizen. There’s your answer.

So stop sitting around complaining on the internet and feeling sorry for yourself and get your ass to work! Work to get the rights that your family brought you here to have. I’m sure you can do it if you are willing to work.

Q: Wich colleege essay topic should I focus on? Plz help?
Brainstorming thoughts:
So first I have this idea of doing an essay based on how
I went to 4 different schools breaking statistics on how a young black lady presents herself and helping many young ladies with self-esteem issues and things of that sort.

The other is pointing out a personal hardship I went through. That being sophomore year when my close uncle was diagnosed with HIV on Thanksgiving and a week later my aunt being diagnosed with breast cancer. I would explain how this took a toll on me first for the worst. How I went into a depression state and my GPA dropping tremendously. Then explain as time went on this problem increased my relationship with God and how it made me a stronger person and able to deal with the next challenge of close family having cancer the next year. I will also explain the accomplishment I had on bringing my grades up the semester and next year. I went from a 2.3 to 3.0 to a 3.7 GPA
I apologize I was rushing to put this up here so I can get some feedback and didn’t spell which and college right. No need to get sarcastic

A: I would focus on the positive and not the negative. With the hardship it almost sounds like you’re trying to make excuses for your GPA drop. It’s impressive that you recovered, but try to focus on the positive and the leadership skills.

Colleges get the hardship essay 9/10. It’s easy to write as to what went wrong in your life and how you corrected it. Don’t make excuses–it’s not going to impress anyone, even if it is quite a story.

It’s not so easy to say how you inspired others and have become the person you are today. You can even use a bit of your hardship experience to be the reason why you inspired people.

Example: ” On Thanksgiving, the day meant to focus on being humble and thankful, my uncle was diagnosed with HIV, and only a week later my aunt followed with a diagnosis of breast cancer. As I watched my loved ones sucuumb to depression and hopelessness (don’t know if that’s true or not…sorry), like so many others out there, I knew that I could be their strength and their support.”

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